Pam Hardman
Mom was a "it is what it is" kind of person. The day I told her that I was pregnant, at 17, she cried for maybe a few minutes and then told me I had to tell my Daddy! Then she got a pen and paper and started making a list of the things "her grandchild" would need! She never put me down or questioned what I was going to do. She made it known right from the first minute that she loved me and my child and would do all she could for us. And she did! She helped me through alot of scarey times as a first time mother. Then later, when he was older and hurting my heart, she told me that your children could break your heart easier and like no one else can. I know over the years her heart broke for me but she always had my back and turned it into a this is life kind of situation. She was definately a "Bloom where your planted" kind of person. And not just with me, for so many of my brothers and friends. She opened her heart and home to anyone who needed it.
I am adding more to this page because with this pain that I have for Mom going home, I also have such an amazement thinking back over my life with Mom. She was everything I could have asked for in a Mom and friend. I want to put it on this page to share these things with you all. One time I told my Mom that I didn't think I could do some of the things my doctors were wanting to do. At that point, my options had run out, and it was have this procedure or die. But it was a life altering procedure and I was scared and mad. Mom told me that I have no choice, She said you are a Mom and you must do whatever the doctors tell you to do so that you can be there for those kids. Quit thinking about yourself, think of those kids and how much they need you. She told me that I lost my right to be selfish the minute I became a Mom! She was right! And with having her as an example of that truth all growing up, it made it easy. You see, my Mom thought that I was crazy for even debating this because I was a Mom. When Mom told me of the cancer, I turned her words on her and told her that she had to do whatever the doctors said would make her live! She said that she would do everything she could to not leave me. And she did. But there just wasn't much they could do. Mom fought right up until the end, and she loved right up until the end. She made sure that we all knew that she loved us. She was amazing and I was so blessed to have her in my life. Thanks for letting me share this with you!
